Choosing to Love and Choosing to be Happy (Part 2 of 2)

Though life is imperfect, we can still be happy; though we are imperfect, we are each worthy of love.

The key is in grace, and grace can be manifested in two ways: in attitude and in action.

In my last post, I wrote of grace in attitude – in appreciation, in acceptance and in acknowledging the call for action.

We can express grace in seeing our lives as they are – and accepting the conditions we cannot change. We can express grace in our relationships by accepting the people we love just as they are, not seeking to change them and forgiving them when they disappoint us.

GRACE IN ACTION  Happiness is a choice. Love is a choice.

Though we need an attitude of grace to accept the things we cannot change in life, grace in action moves us to see what we can and ought to do. This is the recognition of our own responsibility for our happiness.

Though we don’t choose the circumstances of our lives and cannot have total control of the outcome of our actions, we can still choose to act with grace: to make our best choices and to follow through with making life better for ourselves and others.

Happiness is not a drug or a drink, a place or a situation, something we buy or another person. It is an attitude and a choice. It is in action.

Though our family and our partners are imperfect and though we make mistakes and hurt each other, we can express grace in our relationships by seeing the best in one another, loving those qualities and bringing out the best in them.

Love isn’t just a feeling that strikes us, an emotion that is there or not there. Love is a choice. Love is an attitude. Love is an action.

Dr. Davidicus Wong is a physician and writer. His Healthwise column appears regularly in this paper, and his blog can be found at, and His Positive Potential Medicine radio show is at


About Davidicus Wong

I am a family physician. I write a weekly newspaper column, Healthwise for the Vancouver Courier, Burnaby Now, Royal City Record and Richmond News.
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