The Care & Maintenance of Love, Part 10: The Danger of Complacency

In marriage, we can become complacent. We take one another – and our relationship – for granted. When we stop making our partner and our relationship priorities, the rest of our lives take over. We can sleep walk through our lives for years until we are unexpectedly awakened.

That awakening is always a shock. It can be the death of our loved one – through unanticipated illness or an accident. We are left in grief, profoundly missing the gift of their presence  and regretting that we squandered our time with now meaningless distractions and left too much of our love unexpressed.

The awakening can come as a change of heart in our partner. Some of the hardest words to hear must be “I don’t love you anymore.” The drift apart can reach a point of no return when one forgets how they once loved and no longer wants to make things work.

Negativity and cynicism can erode our most important relationships.

Next Post: Combating complacency – the appreciation game.



About Davidicus Wong

I am a family physician. I write a weekly newspaper column, Healthwise for the Vancouver Courier, Burnaby Now, Royal City Record and Richmond News.
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