We define ourselves by our relationships.
When you review the past year, who were the major characters in the drama of your life? More important than most other accomplishments, what did you do for others? How did you make a difference in someone else’s life? This is one of my measures of success.
But like a secret Santa, we shouldn’t give to others to make them feel better about us. Giving should make someone else feel better and make you feel better just because of that.
It can be better to just give forward without any recognition or expectation and imagine how you may changed the spin of the world in a subtle and positive way.
What did others do for you? You have to think about that one. The great and grand things come to mind, but there are countless little favours and good deeds that we easily forget.
Who are the people who always greet you with a smile? Who accepts you unconditionally? Who makes you feel good about yourself? Who loves you just the way you are?
How have your key relationships changed? How have you grown in your relationships? Are you growing together or growing apart?
What new things have you learned about others? Has it changed how you feel about them? Has it changed your relationship?
And what about your relationship to yourself? What new things have you learned about yourself this year? How have you changed? How have you grown?
Will you live your life differently?