Holding Ourselves Back: Prejudging Ourselves

When we’re stuck in life and going nowhere fast – in a job we don’t like, falling into the same issues with our loved ones or repeating the same mistakes ad nauseum, it may not be God, fate or others we can blame.

Though we may be held back by the rigid preconceptions or the prejudice of others, including our family and friends, it may be our own self-conception that is most responsible.

We may be trapped in a box of our own design.

But recognizing this, we may finally escape. The borders of our box are illusory. They are the limits of our imagination – the positive possibilities for ourselves and our lives.

Just because you’ve never been good at a sport doesn’t mean you can’t get some solid coaching, master the core skills and discover your athletic potential.

Just because you haven’t been confident in certain situations in the past doesn’t mean you can’t face these challenges and discover social success.

Just because you have made mistakes in the past does not mean that you have to repeat them. You are not damaged goods. You can live a better life.

Just because no one in your family went into the course of study or career that you would love to pursue doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

Just because you may face physical or health challenges – perhaps a chronic condition such as diabetes, asthma or heart disease – does not mean you cannot live fully and enjoy an authentic sense of well-being.

Just because you have been anxious or depressed in the past does not mean you cannot learn to master your thoughts and emotions, achieving the happiness that you deserve.

But you first have to address the negative programming of your own subconscious, the fear of your inner child and the self-talk that holds you back.

Talk back when you recognize your own negative self-talk. Challenge the voices of the past.

Imagine a better life, but realize that until you have pushed your limits (beyond the borders of that illusory box), that better life may be greater than anything you have yet imagined.

Don’t prejudge yourself. None of us has finished growing.

Break out of your box.


About Davidicus Wong

I am a family physician. I write a weekly newspaper column, Healthwise for the Vancouver Courier, Burnaby Now, Royal City Record and Richmond News.
This entry was posted in Awareness, Growth, Happiness, Positive Change, Positive Potential, Relationships and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to Holding Ourselves Back: Prejudging Ourselves

  1. mysterycoach says:

    I like the things you write 🙂 This is so very true. Very nice.

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