We all procrastinate for different reasons.
Women should know that the reasons that men may allow the to-do list to grow is not just laziness, a short-attention span or an inability to focus on more than one thing at a time.
Most of us haven’t embraced the to-do list. You may think of this as a passive-aggressive act of defiance (which doesn’t sound very manly at all). What we have is a failure to engage. We don’t recognize every item on that list as something that is important to us. Hint for partners: you can make an item important to us.
Any of us can procrastinate due to sheer busyness. We don’t take the time to prioritize, and we keep putting off what we ought to do.
We could be misallocating our time and energies, by wasting our time on things that really aren’t as important to us, such as watching T.V. or updating our Facebook status.
Sometimes, we deliberately procrastinate because we choose to do something else that is more important and requires our attention at this time.
The last thing we want, however, is to let the busyness of our lives and our own neglect keep us from doing what we really want to do, doing what we need to do for ourselves and the people we love, and realizing our most important dreams.
Tips for Mindful Procrastination:
1. Write out your Procrastination List.
2. Categorize each item as: (a) What I would like to do now (or soon), (b) What’s important but doesn’t have to be done now, and (c) What’s not urgent or important.
3. Admit that you have no intention of doing anything under category (c) so strike it off your list right now and stop feeling guilty about it.
4. At the beginning of every week (or if you procrastinate, at the end of the week), review your Procrastination List. Make sure items under (b) should not be moved to (a).