The Challenge of Unconditional Love

Being human and imperfect, we love one another imperfectly. One of the purposes of our lives may be to learn to love unconditionally. For many, the closest they have experienced this is through parental love, but even here, parental feelings can get caught up in the expectations and control of our egos.

Agape – the spiritual version of love – can bring us peace and real happiness, but not the manic high of romantic love. In contrast to the roller coaster ride of our emotions, unconditional love grounds us. It allows us to accept, appreciate, give and let go. It is like seeing and appreciating great beauty without wishing to possess it; forgiving and letting go without needing an apology; giving and expecting nothing in return.

We have received this love from many people throughout our lives – including the family and friends we have in our lives today. This is what connects us to one another. This is what endures and survives our relationships and our lives. We already have all the love that we need, and we need to continue to give it away.

Tomorrow: Learning to love unconditionally – the challenge of the family.


About Davidicus Wong

I am a family physician. I write a weekly newspaper column, Healthwise for the Vancouver Courier, Burnaby Now, Royal City Record and Richmond News.
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2 Responses to The Challenge of Unconditional Love

  1. Helen says:

    Great post Dr. Wong. Reminded me of the verses one of the ladies shared at church just this past Sunday…

    Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that. Ephesian 5:1-2 (The Message)

    My favourite part: His love was not cautious and extravagant. My homework for the week has been learning to love my little family extravagantly 🙂

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