Death informs life.
It can give us a perspective on our lives – and our relationships – that can lift us from the complacency of our common days.
It can give us urgency to do what we’ve always wanted to do and say what needs to be said: admitting our mistakes, forgiving others theirs, expressing appreciation and love. We can attend to what matters most when we anticipate the end of our own lives or the life of one we love. With this urgency, it can feel that we had wasted our precious time with not enough left ahead.
When death is unexpected, it is too late. Most often we leave much undone and unsaid. We wait too long to have those crucial conversations. We may be by nature quick to anger but slow to forgive. We may be even slower to apologize.
Yet we all know that our days are numbered though we live as if they will go on forever. It is our nature to get caught up in the business of living – pursuing what seems more important at the time. But when we recognize that our time with those we love is limited, we realize our relationships matter most.
Next: Finding comfort from loss.