What are the qualities of a healthy friendship? I need only think of the special friends who have enriched my life. I call them my soul friends. We are kindred spirits, and though we may have different backgrounds and jobs, we share core beliefs about what is good and a deep abiding love for one another.
Our relationships are reciprocal, each gives and takes, and each listens. With my best friends, I don’t even keep track of who gives more. My friend, Steve and I each grab for the dinner bill. Each of us feels we are getting the better deal and want to give more in return. It feels better than fair.
Soul friends know you best; they see deeply into your spirit. They recognize the best in you, and they bring it out. My friend, Stan reminds me of my dreams and challenges me to live them.
With best friends, you can pick up where you left off even if you haven’t talked for months. In spite of the unpredictable changes in our lives and our preoccupation with family and work, I never grow apart from my childhood friends, Stew, Peter, Ron and Mike.
Best friends see all of you – including you at your worst moments. They accept and love you anyway.
They will tell you the truth even if you don’t like it. They will organize an intervention if you’re out of line, destroying yourself or your life.
Appreciate and nurture your soul friends. They are the rare and precious diamonds through which unconditional love shines. They bring out the brilliance, beauty and meaning in your life.