Stan is one of my soul friends.
We’ve known each other since he moved to Burnaby in grade 9.
Though we each went on divergent career paths, we are both writers at heart. We shared our greatest aspirations . . . even the ones we’d be embarrassed to tell anyone else.
We saw countless movies together. We saw the first Superman movie together. After the show, Stan wondered, “What if you could fly but you lived your whole life not realizing you could?”
We both dreamt of growing up and making movies ourselves. We dreamt of being great writers. Stan went on to study English literature. He won writing competitions, wrote screenplays, became a teacher and then taught teachers.
He writes a popular weekly newspaper column in Kelowna, and he published his first book. At the same time, he continues to rise in academia.
He constantly taps his personal wellspring of creativity. This has given him a unique and novel approach to everything in life and makes him an interesting guy to anyone who meets him. Not so secretly, he’s a musician who writes and performs his own songs.
With all his achievements and personal growth, he remains the essential person who is my soul friend.
Together we survived the roller coaster ride of our teens and twenties. We’ve seen each other through the toughest times in our adult lives.
Soul friends know you best; they see deeply into your spirit. They recognize the best in you, and they bring it out. They remind you of your dreams and challenge you to live them.
Best friends see all of you – including you at your worst moments. They accept and love you anyway.
They will tell you the truth even if you don’t like it. They will organize an intervention if you’re out of line, destroying yourself or your life.
They are the rare and precious diamonds through which unconditional love shines. They bring out the brilliance, beauty and meaning in your life.